[ecko_quote source=" Proverbs 18:21 "]Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof [/ecko_quote]
For 6,000 years, history had been written and rewritten by the victor. Throughout the ages, as battles were fought and won, the surviving army recorded history from their viewpoint. Today we live in a different world. Our lives are recorded. Our texts and voice messages are digitally recorded and stored indefinitely. Because of the threat of terrorism against innocent people, most schools, churches, and public buildings have security cameras and recorders, inside and outside, recording every action and word.
Years ago, if you had a fit of anger and lashed out with your words, you could possibly get away with it because it was only recorded in the minds of those who've heard it. However, in the last few years of recorded history, you cannot. Times have certainly changed.
When telephone answering machines were considered as new technology, I had a friend who would talk through them. If someone made him angry, he would return their call. If they did not answer when the answering device picked up, he would let loose on them, and his message full of anger was recorded. Later, when he calmed down, he would regret what he had said. However, it was too late. The words were recorded in that answering machine.
Recently, I met a couple who was having marital problems. It all came to light when the husband accidentally left a message for his girlfriend on his wife's phone. Of course, he did not intend for his wife to hear the message, but his words were recorded whether he wanted them to be or not. He went to great lengths to keep his wife from finding the message, but he could not erase his words.
What many Christians do not understand is that their words contain power whether they are recorded or not. Because words are spirit (John 6:63), they can produce life or death. Heard or unheard, words are recorded in the realm of the spirit. The Bible tells us very clearly that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). Thus, the words spoken from the heart by a believer can create or destroy fellowships and families. I have seen in recent times believer including Church leaders, and Pastors spoke harsh and inexcusable words with believers, and they were deeply heart and stopped coming to the fellowship. I cannot understand this, being Christians how could they speak such destructive and aching words. These words are registered forever in the hearts and minds of those who experience such ordeal. Even our forgiveness leaving the matter aside would not avail anything.
Somebody once said, "I am a good enough person to forgive you, but not stupid enough to trust you again". It's just like once lost is lost forever situation. Joel Osteen once said, "Be careful what you say, you can say something hurtful in ten seconds, but ten years later, the wounds are still there".
The Word of God states in Colossians 4:6, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt so that you may know how to answer everyone”. Let your speech be always with grace, "In grace, or concerning grace": let grace be the subject matter of your speech and conversation.
When saints meet together they should converse with each other about the work of grace upon their souls, seasoned with Salt - Salt, among the Greeks, was the emblem of wittiness. Here the meaning seems to be, that our conversation should be seasoned with piety or grace in a way similar to that in which we employ salt in our food. It makes it wholesome and palatable. So with our conversation. So it should be with our conversations. If it's not filled with the spirit of piety, it is flat, insipid, unprofitable, injurious.